![]() ![]() They will not be able to say “I told you so, I told you he wasn’t right for you, I told you it wouldn’t last” The most important part of the arranged marriage is also the fact that – you can blame your family if it doesn’t work out. The arranged marriage will in fact take into account practicality, logic and compatibility – these are LONG TERM necessities that will make the marriage last, instead of solely love. If the family is the main priority, you will listen to them, and you will trust them. In places like India, Africa and the Middle East, culture encourages the concept of the family as being your main priority. Love seems invincible, something that can conquer all issues – you don’t need money when you have love! You don’t need to be practical when you’re in love! You’ll manage! Love will get you through! The issue with a love marriage is that it overlooks these impractical incompatibilities. This would create a concept of the perfect life, through the perfect person, which is interpreted as true love. They have access to anything and everything, which would allow them to escape from reality, books, internet, films and TV. To westerners, love can be seen much more appealing. In the US around 50% of marriages end in divorce and in India only 1 out 100 marriages meaning 1.1%, The figures may not suggest that arranged marriage is the reason for successful marriages in India, yet it can be seen as a factor, because arranged marriages are common in that region of the world. In December 2012 the office of national statistics discovered a divorce rate of 42% in England and Wales. Yet in the countries that seem to shiver at the thought, the divorce rates are very high. The influence of Hollywood films and certain interpretations of freedom/equality and feminism lead people to run away at the thought of an arranged marriage as it seems to be a breach of their freedom. They are two completely different concepts I am extremely against forced marriages, yet I am for an arranged marriage.Īrranged marriages are common in Africa, Middle East and Asia, and are fairly rare in western countries where the focus is on finding your own partner and falling in love independently without any family interference. This is with the consent of both individuals, whereas forced marriages put either individual at pressure to marry, without consent. An arranged marriage is when families of the people getting married find suitors for the individuals and suggest compatibility. Firstly let me clarify the idea of arranged marriages– I was very annoyed to type ‘arranged marriages’ into Google only for it to be followed by forced marriages these are not synonymous. My opinion is based on logic rather than fantasy and expectations. Call me traditional, backwards or boring – but I will always be for arranged marriages as opposed to love marriages. ![]()
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